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You Can Be Right, or You Can Be Married
I heard this phrase as a counseling student in the throes of her program. It was before I’d started seeing clients – during a time when I was consuming as many mental health podcasts as I could stand in the vain hope it would make me a better counselor. Most of them...
Bridging Generations: The Invisible Load of Dual Caregiving
If you’re in a position where you are caring for both your children and parents, you’ve likely felt the push and pull from both directions: young children needing your energy and attention, and aging parents needing your help, advocacy, and often, your emotional...
How Do You Stop Yelling at Your Kids, Especially About Screen Time?
As both a parent and a therapist, I know how hard it can be to stay calm when screen time turns into a battle. Many parents I work with, myself included, have found ourselves saying things we wish we hadn’t. It’s usually not really about the device. It’s about feeling...
When ADHD Shows Up in a Relationship
“You just don’t care!”“How can I ever trust you?”“Why do I always have to be the one who manages everything?” Does this sound familiar? If you have ADHD, these might be words you’ve heard from your partner more than once. And if your partner has ADHD, maybe you’ve...
More “Connected” Than Ever — Or Not?
Brené Brown once said, “Connection is why we’re here; it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives” (Brown, 2010). Yet, despite all the ways technology lets us reach out instantly, many of us feel lonelier than ever before. We can text a friend with a tap,...
EMDR with Complex Trauma: It Doesn’t Have to Be Scary
Clients are sometimes hesitant to start EMDR, and for good reason. The idea of dredging up painful experiences from your past is uncomfortable, there’s tons of horror stories floating around the internet of people getting retraumatized with bad EMDR work, and frankly...
Do Bullies Need Punishment—or Understanding?
I was chatting recently with an educator about the rising problem of bullying in schools, and I have to admit, her suggestion caught me off guard: she thought public shaming might be a good way to punish bullies—giving them a taste of their own medicine. As a...
Making Back to School Smoother and Easier at Home
Take a moment to reflect on the challenges you and your child faced with school last year. Maybe mornings or bedtimes felt rushed, homework dragged on, or friendships got tricky. Whatever it was, you’re not alone, and the good news is, there are tools that can help....
Disordered Eating in High School Boys
I wouldn’t have admitted to this back then, but I was ashamed of my body when I was in high school. I would suck my belly in whenever people would take photos or whenever I thought people were giving me attention (which, for a high schooler, was ALWAYS). How could I...
Getting To Know Your Unconscious
There is a quote from Carl Jung that really sticks with me: “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life, and you will call it fate.” What he is getting at is that so much of what shapes how we feel, and act happens below the surface, stuff we...
For the Family: 20 Heartfelt Movies with a Meaning
Summer is winding down and school will be in session. I can probably guess that parents and children alike are feeling the summer blues knowing structure and routine will take priority. It definitely is a hard transition for families to get back into the swing of...